It appears that Kim and Kanye are taking their shit show on the road. The wedding is taking place in Europe. Ironically, the decision was influenced by Kimberly seeing a clip of “Debbie Does Dallas”. According to E! -a.k.a Kris Jenner’s Bottom Bitch, have several seats Access Hollywood- the wedding is taking place in Florence, Italy. That’s smart of Kanye West. It’s best that Kim Kardashian be kept thousands of miles away from the nearest professional black athlete (soccer doesn’t count, converting currency makes her brain tingle i.e., work). Add Comment Full-time jobs terrify me. Most college students don't really have a grasp of what that means, full time. Some of them are obligated to work only summers if at all. Many of us only worked part-time, anywhere from 10-25 hours a week. When you graduate from college you lose a lot of acceptable excuses to be a lay-about. I really love being a lay-about. This isn't my first time at the dance. I have had a full-time job before and it didn't go well. The first November after I graduated my paramour(classy) found me a job through some connections. I worked as an admin(that's administrative assistant for those who aren't in the know). Anyway, the job was total bullshit, but the bullshit took up 40-45 hours of my week. I was also tutoring. My work week fluctuated from 50 to close to 60 hours a week. How did it go? I got a cold every 3 to 4 weeks. I gained about 15lbs, solid. Actually, not solid- pretty fucking fatty. I have the metabolism of a hibernating bear and I need the gym. I barely if ever went as a result of my hours(and the fact that I also really hate the gym). I didn't play volleyball anymore either which is something I did religiously(the holy trinity-Pass, set, kill). My brain suffered too. I didn't write anymore which is something I VOWED TO DO, post-graduation.'Cause you know, I want to get paid for writing. With my job tho, I simply lacked the drive and I was fucking tired. Flash forward- Quit my job, stopped getting sick, lost a few pounds and have written some solid material.Hell my skin even cleared up. However, I am fucking broke. That 60 hour a week money is very real. It enabled me to be job free for the last 3 months. This time off has been valuable; I've gained a lot of clarity and confidence in what I want career wise. However, my favorite professor even said it herself: writing is a side hustle, for most people it will always be a side hustle. Until you become one of the lucky few it must be fueled by a main-hustle...(i urban dictionary'd her quote). I want to tell all my newly minted post-bach friends and also myself not to get side-tracked. Full-time money can be very distracting. There's this paint commercial where this young guy gets married and moves into a home with his wife. They have a spare bedroom which he makes into an office to write "the great american novel". The office quickly becomes a nursery, which becomes a child's bedroom, which becomes a teenage girls secret lair of crushes and soul crushing gossip, which then goes back into being an office. The man enters the room again a little grayer and worse for wear...to continue the great american novel he had meant to start before life got into the way. What this has to do with selling paint I'm not sure but, life really works in that way. I saw it for myself. How quickly hobbies, passions and diets can be pushed to the side before you've realized they've been neglected for months. This is post a bit about being wary of the full-time job, but a girl's gotta eat! That organic gelato is free. Whole foods ain't about that EBT life(or, are they?). This post is about holding onto your passions for dear life because they make your life pleasurable. Especially if you consider yourself an artist. Your life can't be what you want without your craft Post-grow up life, is a time that could be described as when you've run out of excuses to do dumb things. Or worse, the excuse to do the dumb thing more than once. While everyone grows up at somewhat different speeds and we all experience an array of things at different periods; I would say most of us have reached post-grown up life around 25. By 25, most of us have had someone close to us die. Most of us have failed a class we shouldn't have(Gym, senior year summer school- go me!) had sex with someone we should not have(Ugh, Matt); We have most likely broken at least one persons heart(we'r such a cold-hearted bitch!), and had our heart broken at least once through the philosophical theory of Karma tic retribution. By this age you should have had at least one job, and if you're anything like me have had a series of unwarranted and warranted firings. You see, by 25 you have experienced a lot, but something new has finally hit me. This idea of shitting or getting off the pot. The ages of 24-25 has provided me with some choices. Not, "hmm..iced or hot venti chai" choices. but real life shit(RLS) choices. Shit like:Should I get married? Shit or get off the pot, and by getting off the pot I mean- break up forever, start fresh with some new dolt who I have fooled into thinking I am awesome. That's RLS at its finest. Another RLS moment many of us are facing? Career choice. Jobs at Mcdonald's aren't easy to come by; graduate school is expensive; cover letters take a lot of fucking time; and I honestly barely have 2 people I can use as references. Careers or attempting to break into a field (think ACCOUNTANT IDOL) are deep time and monetary investments. They're shit or get off the pot, RLS, post-grow up life choices. Personally, I never realized how marked my life has been by lack of decisions until my life-sustaining and growing it -became nothing but a series of decisions. These decisions don't take maybe. It's yes or no. Tough shit. RLS. What is the take away Cultural Cutlass? Well, what I think is become a cutlass*. Be decisive, but be you. When realizing you are making a bunch of life changing decisions in your post-grow up life, some which are no-turning-back-no-uturn-you'll-never-be-the-same decisions, keep yourself in mind. Eliminate all secondary factors. Don't become a nurse because your Jamaican mom thinks it is well paying. Do it because it is a decision you have very little doubts about. Make choices that you would regret not making. Go forth. Be swift, be sharp. * a short sword with a slightly curved blade Say Yes to the Dress, Four Weddings, I Found the Gown, Something Borrowed and Bridezillas. These shows have an addictive quality. If you did not question whether you preferred tulle or lace, and indoor or outdoor fiasco, you will after watching one of these shows. I am 25 years old, and I have a fair amount of friends. Many of them in "serious" relationships. Outside of my friends that got married directly out of high school; I know no married people. Nope. Not. A. One. I admit there are a few engagements that pop up on my newsfeed, but those have tended to be "un long dimanche de fiançailles" Very Long Engagements. The type that are preceded or circumvented by a sort of a new babyfriend . That very rarely lead down an aisle, but most certainly see an arbitration at some point or another. Yet these shows still exist, and hey maybe my experience is totally anecdotal. I am black, lower-class, and living in an urban city. But! The Huffington Post says that Marriage in America is at a historic low. Historic! Our lack of committed love is in the record books, people. The article titled states that cultural norms are compelling us to wait until we reach certain socio-economic bracket. Livin' high off the hog! You know, until we have the ability to afford one of those Pnina Tornai dresses on Say Yes, have a seven-course meal like on Four Weddings. Marriage means different things for different people. For some it is a practical matter. We want this(let's call it A) and marriage(B) will facilitate that(C). Admittedly, it comes with a smorgasburg of rights and privileges. For other people it centers around the romance and the idea of forever, Shows like the ones mentioned play into the romanticism and perpetuate the idea that the big wedding and even bigger wedding gown- as hallmarks of how to begin a marriage. They are so prevalent that they appear necessary. However! Look at the state of our employment. If socio-economics and the ability to have "things" are the reason people are holding off marriage while co-habitating, this might be an indefinite state for a lot of people. |